Ways to celebrate and honour the mum’s who have died, who are seriously ill or who cannot be or are not present for whatever reason and regardless if this is your first Mother’s Day without them or you’ve had many without them physically present.
I’m sharing this ahead of the day to give you time to plan ahead a little.
Incorporate their favourite colour into your outfit.
Buy or plant their favourite flowers.
Listen to their favourite music or sing their favourite song.
Or watch their favourite film or tv show.
Cook their favourite dish or eat a favourite snack or beverage of theirs.
Play the games the loved to play.
If you saved something of theirs get it out, hold it in your hands, get tactile with it – it can help you feel close to them.
Look through old photos and reminisce.
Visit one of their favourite places.
Pray for them.
Raise a glass to them with their favourite tipple.
Wear their favourite perfume.
Light a candle.
Meditate with them in mind.
Re-tell their best and worst jokes.
Read one of their favourite books or magazines.
This is a hard one – go stand in front of a mirror, look at yourself and tell your mum, and in turn yourself, how much you care about them, what you love about them, how they brought you joy or share a special memory of the two of you together. This is so powerful because your mum is still a part of you. Your mum is incorporated into your DNA and into your energetic being – even if the mum you are celebrating is not biological. Even if the mum you are celebrating is the mother of your child/ren, a mother figure or you never met them.
Write them a letter telling them how much they mean to you or about your news. File it with the keepsakes you have kept of theirs, burn in a ceremony allowing the smoke and floating ashes to take your message to them or pop it in a letterbox to heaven if you have one local to you (my nearest is at St Barts in Marsden)
And last but not least – it’s ok to still buy them a card and display it prominently and proudly.
Whatever grief is there let it be present too.
In the next few days I will write about coping with or surviving Mother’s Day if your relationship was toxic, non-existent or if you are currently estranged from each other.
With love
Nancy xx
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